Did you really like a certain person, but do not know how to ask this girl or guy out on a date? In moments like this, we just need to muster the courage and take the first step. But how exactly should this be done? What to say and how to behave? This is what we’ll talk about next.
What do you need to remember?
There are a few important things to consider before asking someone out on a date:
- The more you feel that everything is under control, regardless of the outcome, the more confident you will be during communication. And a high level of self-confidence is very attractive to the opposite sex.
- Watch this person for a while. After all, there are questions that cannot simply be asked to an unfamiliar person. Therefore, you need to remain calm and observant. You can learn a lot about a person just by observing them for a while. What should you pay attention to?
- Is he / she already in a relationship?
- What is this person’s orientation?
- What does this person like or dislike?
Any information will be useful as soon as you decide to invite the girl or guy you like on a date. At first, you may find clues in clothing, demeanor, in the people with whom they are associated, which places the person is visiting, and so on. And if you get to know the person better, you can feel more confident and your proposal will be more successful.
Practical advice on how to ask out on a date
1. Look your best
Looking good can help you feel more comfortable and confident in your interactions. Moreover, it is very important what first impression you leave about yourself. Therefore, it is best to always strive to create a positive first impression. After all, you never know when you will have the opportunity to chat with a person or invite her / him on a first date.
2. Be positive
Expecting the person to accept the offer and agree to go on a date will give you confidence and increase the likelihood that this girl or guy will say yes. This doesn’t mean you need to be overconfident or cocky. Remember that overconfidence, even if it compensates for shyness, is perceived as arrogance. Just try to be positive. This will greatly increase your chances of dating. And even if they say “no” to you, then in this case you will not worry too much.
3. Be prepared for rejection
Anything can happen. So be prepared for rejection. Starting a new relationship and first dates are very sensitive moments. And many people may not be ready for them. So if you get rejected when trying to ask someone out on a date, don’t get upset and take it personally. The best way to deal with rejection is to be prepared for it. Play out possible scenarios in your mind when the person says no to you, and plan how you will react to this.
Of course, the most dignified option is to politely accept the refusal. Show that you are mildly disappointed, but respect the person’s opinion. You might say something like, “okay, it was just an attempt,” and smile sweetly. Then move on. It can be like physically, if you are little acquainted with this person, or have just met. Or, it could be a change of topic if you already know this girl or guy.
4. How well do you know this person?
The success or failure of your proposal will depend on how well you know the person, if at all. Typically, this can be divided into three categories:
- The person you just met;
- The person you already know;
- Or your friend.
How do you ask someone you don’t know much on a date?
If you have just met this person, then you must act immediately, as you simply may not have another opportunity. To do this, you need to look the person in the eye. This will help boost his interest. Then walk up and start a conversation. Don’t use too many smart and original phrases. Most of them fail. Just be yourself. Usually a simple and sincere question is sufficient. For example: “You know, I really liked / liked you. Could we meet with you at the weekend and go to a cafe or to the cinema? ”
Honesty and sincerity play an important role here. And, if the answer is yes, then continue the conversation. Show the person that you are really interested in him, and that you are interested in what he says. Exchange phone numbers and offer to meet in a place where she or he will be comfortable.
Think in advance how you will do it, and what to say. I personally believe that all date invitations should be individual. Yes, you can just call a friend or write an invitation message. Fortunately, today we have social networks and instant messengers, with the help of which we can calmly write to a girl or a guy and invite them on a date.
But the advantage of a personal invitation is that you can immediately gauge the person’s reaction and control any awkwardness that might arise between you. Text prompts may work, but there is a lot of room for misinterpretation and misunderstandings. So think about what kind of invitation would be more comfortable for you.
If you want to make an invitation in person, then you can say the following: “What are you doing on the weekend? Perhaps we could meet together and sit somewhere? ” If the reaction is positive, then suggest a specific day or place, such as having coffee tomorrow afternoon, or having dinner on Saturday night.
How do I ask a friend out on a date?
Moving your friend to the romantic zone is probably the most difficult one, as you can lose him altogether if something goes wrong. On the other hand, you already know each other well. You know how to communicate better with him / her, what she likes, and so on.
Therefore, you can simply say the same thing as in the second option with a person you already know. Just keep in mind that your boyfriend / girlfriend may not understand at first that this is really a date. So after you meet, take a moment and time to gently hint that you want to take your friendship to the next level. Namely, to translate the relationship into a more romantic one. Then just watch the person’s reaction, and if you feel any negative notes, then say that it was a bad decision, and you’d be better off just being friends.
Each of us has to deal with these nervous moments and difficulties associated with dating at one time or another. I hope that in your case the result will be positive. And if not, then in no case be discouraged, and do not give up. Try to maintain a positive attitude and move on.
Remember, too, that everyone is different, so never take rejection personally. Just move forward and try again. And as a result, you will definitely find your ideal partner.