Parents are the first teachers for children and role models. They are responsible for shaping the child’s behavior and fostering positive values in him. Children listen, observe and imitate mother and father. Therefore, it will be useful for each of us to learn how to become an example for a child and raise him as a strong and significant person.
All children learn by example
To begin with, the mother or father must be well versed in the things that they explain to the son or daughter. And if you want to become an example for a child, then you must be practitioners in what you teach your child. But most parents fail miserably at this stage and give the baby the wrong upbringing. There is no doubt that raising children is one of the most difficult tasks in family life. After all, in order to become a good parent, you need to have a certain amount of knowledge. And in order to raise responsible children, you need to be willing to put in a lot of time, patience and energy.
Children are like plasticine. That is, they are formed on the basis of how their dad and mom form them. And it’s up to you to decide how you want your baby to be. Of course, the wrong upbringing will lead to bad consequences. Therefore, if you want to raise a good child, you have to set a good example and become a significant person for him to follow.
Don’t adopt parenting patterns
I don’t think anyone can be the perfect parent. Everyone learns by trial and error. Nobody is born perfect and all-knowing. And each person has their own advantages and disadvantages. But being a good father and mother isn’t all that difficult. All you have to do is become a good example for your son or daughter. After all, they will learn everything from you. It is from you that the baby will learn what is right or wrong. Do’s and Don’ts. And if you don’t set a good example for your baby, you shouldn’t expect him to become a decent person.
Sometimes we tend to raise our children the same way we raised us. But I still recommend not to completely adopt parenting patterns, but to contribute to this important matter. But how do you become a role model? Below you can familiarize yourself with the qualities that a parent must have in order to become an example for a child.
How to become an example for your child?
1. Show positive values
If you want your child to have the right values, then you must have them too. Children are known to imitate everything and follow their dad and mom. Thus, it will not be a good sign if you start teaching your son or daughter to be an honest person, and you yourself will deceive and tell lies in the family circle. Even in those moments when, as some believe, deception is beneficial. By doing this, you will be transmitting a message to your children that lying is not so bad.
Likewise, there are many parents who use profanity and swear, but teach their children not to use swear words. In this case, you will have to constantly find explanations why you can swear, but children cannot. Therefore, it is very important that you practice what you teach your children. It is important that you get rid of your negative behavior if you want your children to show positive qualities. Teach your little ones a positive attitude and correct values. Such as honesty, respect, generosity, kindness, good manners, and forgiveness. And don’t forget to praise and reward them for good behavior.
2. Show respect for the people around you
If you expect your child to respect you and treat you well, then you must respect other people as well, including your child. Your children will treat you the same way you treat your parents and the people around you. If you are disrespectful to your loved ones, talk rudely with them, are rude, and do not value them, then remember that one day your children may treat you in the same way. Or, if you show bad behavior in the family, then the children will also adopt this and transfer it to you or to other people in the future.
For example, if you insult your husband, you show your son or daughter that it is also perfectly acceptable for them to insult their spouse in the future. So keep track of how you treat your friends, spouse, parents, neighbors, colleagues and other people in your life. Let the children see the love, care, and respect from you. Then it will be much easier for you to become an example for the child and develop positive qualities in him.
3. Communicate more with children
If you want to be an example for your child, you should spend more time with your children. Listen and understand their feelings. Let them know they can be honest with you and trust your most important secrets. Encourage them to be open, discipline, and comfort when they are in pain. If kids need motivation, then support them and teach them responsibility.
Like positive perceptions, children also acquire negative traits. So if you make a mistake, take full responsibility. Instead of blaming someone else. Learn to learn from mistakes and move on. If your little one does something wrong, help him accept the mistake and explain what to do next time. Instead of yelling and physical punishment, learn to communicate and convey information correctly. Let the son or daughter know that it is okay to make mistakes. It is only important to be honest in this case, and learn from them.
4. Teach children healthy habits
Like good manners and etiquette, it is important to develop healthy habits in your children. You must become an example for them in a healthy lifestyle. Develop a healthy diet, exercise, and exercise. Be fit and look after your appearance. Encourage children to participate in sports activities and sports classes. Let them play with children of their age. Teach hygiene and cleanliness. Tell us about the negative effects of smoking and alcohol on the human body.
Encourage them to learn new things. By doing this, you can instill in your son and daughter the lifelong learning and development skills that will be useful to them in adulthood. Be as involved as possible in your child’s life. In this case, it will be much easier for you to understand how to become an example for a child. In addition, show interest in sports yourself, be interested in everything new, have various hobbies and hobbies.
5. Do not abuse alcohol
If you like to drink a little, then keep it reasonable. But explain to your child that only adults can drink alcohol, and this is strictly contraindicated for children. Explain how alcohol can affect the human body and what the consequences might be. Talk to them about drinks that have different strengths, and let them know that even a small dose of alcohol can negatively affect a person’s condition. If possible, try to completely get rid of the use of spirits, or gradually reduce the amount.
6. Learn to deal with negative emotions
Does your child quickly lose composure, often hysterics and cry? what about you? How often do you scream with your family and show negative emotions? After all, the way you react to anger or resentment subsequently affects your child. In moments of anger, I always imagine a woman who yells at her babies and says “stop crying.” She can be understood, but she does not teach children anything good about it. As a result, they will simulate the same bad attitude.
If situations arise in your life when you shout at children. Try to stay calm next time. Take a deep breath and try to calmly discuss the problem. If appropriate, talk to your child about what triggered your anger and how you dealt with it.
In addition to their parents, children also learn from their teachers and their environment. It will be difficult for you to become a good example for your child if he has a bad environment. So take a close look at who your son or daughter is interacting with. It is recommended that you keep your angels away from those who behave in an unacceptable manner. After all, such people can also influence the baby.