I, like many girls, have long wondered how to find a guy for a serious relationship. At the same time, I believe that building a successful relationship and finding your person is not so easy. However, this is exactly what happened to me and my husband ten years ago.
Yes, not everyone is as “lucky” as me. And many now think, “what if nothing like this happens to me, and I will live alone for a long time, and I cannot find my soul mate?”. This reality can be especially frightening for women who keep a close eye on how their biological years pass. Combine this fear with the fact that some people never actually get married in their entire lives, despite the fact that they want to. And you have a mixture of serious panic and anxiety.
To cope with this, and still find your person, I offer you a combination of increased confidence, reduced isolation, and gradual implementation of certain actions. You need to focus on finding a good person first, rather than dwelling on your biological years.
1. Build Your Confidence
Dating and dating is a bit like shopping. Many men see a product before deciding whether they want to try it or not – (dating). Then they can make a purchase – (engagement / marriage). In my experience and the experience of my friends, confidence is the best quality you should work towards when trying to attract a partner. If a man sees that you look stooped from a distance, with poor posture and an unpleasant look. Then he will simply abandon you, and will not even want to communicate.
2. Always use correct posture
This point is a continuation of the next one, but I decided to highlight it separately. Because straight shoulders, a straight back and a raised chin indicate that you are comfortable with yourself. That is, you like yourself, and it does not matter to you what height or weight you have.
Yes, each of us has our drawbacks. But you must either accept them or change them. Confidence in how you carry yourself, walk and communicate will show a man that you value and respect yourself. A man will certainly be interested in you when he sees a confident woman walking by.
3. Make the effort
I am not saying now that you need to start every day by cleansing your face with high quality cosmetics. But be sure to tidy yourself up every morning. Wash your face and apply blush and mascara. It will take you five to ten minutes. But you will look five years younger. I also have a friend who, before meeting her husband, constantly complained about her weight. She started going to the gym, and not much of that and lost weight. But I was able to regain self-confidence due to hard work on myself.
Guys don’t want to be with girls who don’t put in the time and effort. Because they think you won’t waste time on them either. If your goal is to build a real and fulfilling relationship for life, then make it your goal to become a trophy woman.
Put on some makeup every day, go to the gym, wear pretty outfits. In short, watch yourself, make at least a little effort. As a result, it will help you build confidence and make it easier for you to find a guy to be in a serious relationship.
4. Positive attitude
The next tip on how to find a boyfriend for a relationship is to have a positive attitude in life. Always try to think and say positive things. Men are repulsed by whining, complaints and negative attitudes towards life. When they see that you are only talking about your problems and failures, their defense mechanism is triggered and they leave. A positive attitude towards life is a must. At the same time, don’t be fake or lie. But do not complain constantly, and unnecessarily. This will scare the person off even before your relationship begins.
5. Chat more and meet new people
I have many friends who complain about loneliness but do nothing to change it. I have a friend who still tells me how much she wants to find a guy, but at the same time she has been working in the same place for about ten years, goes to the same cafe where everyone knows everyone, and the likelihood that who something will accidentally enter her life, very small. I recommend that she go to places where there are many men, as well as step out of her normal social routine. You need to do the same.
6. Go where men go
The isolation my friend is experiencing at work is real, and it really is a problem. That is why I invite her to visit more different places. If necessary, you can change your place of work, change your apartment, move to another district or city. Also, think about places where single guys are. Take your girlfriend with you and go there.
Singles can be found in gyms, restaurants, shopping malls, or other public places. You have to go beyond your normal social setting if you want to meet new people.
Dating is great, but for many, the challenge is finding a decent person.
7. Maintain high standards
The worst thing you can do when looking for a life partner is to lower your standards and be with the first guy that gets in your way. Yes, there are many decent and good men. But there are also a lot of bad guys who “prey” on women of lower standards.
Make a list of what you expect from a man and follow it. Many men are looking for one night stand. But not many men want to date and build long-term relationships. So keep your standards high and look for decent men, even if you’re in your late thirties.
8. Step outside your comfort zone
Overall, I think this article can be boiled down to the fact that you have to step outside your comfort zone if you really want to change something in life. If you are many years old and you are desperate to find a boyfriend or a wealthy man, then be sure to change the way you look and present yourself. Also change your areas of communication (work, cafe, gym, restaurants, recreational activities, and so on).
But never, under any circumstances, compromise your values. Don’t hesitate to stick to what you’re looking for in a partner. Concentrate on becoming the woman you want to be. And you will definitely attract the desired person.