How can you learn to cheat without anyone recognizing it? Ideally, you shouldn’t be in situations where you have to lie. Be it your husband, wife, family member, boss at work, or just an acquaintance. Avoid lying, because honesty and truth are always valued in society. In the event that you still have to lie, despite the fact that it can do more harm than good, here are some tips to help you learn to deceive and lie.
1) tell yourself you have reasons to lie
The easiest way to learn to cheat and talk without feeling nervous or showing emotion is to convince yourself that you have a reason. Lying is unethical, and anyone with a conscience will think twice before cheating. But that can change if there is a valid reason for lying. Overcome this obstacle by reminding yourself why you need to lie. Bring yourself to the point where you convince yourself that you have to do it. This exercise will help you to some extent overcome your conscience and maintain composure when deceiving.
2) Practice these words in private
In order to better understand how to learn to cheat, you need to practice it, like everything else in life. Replay the situation and your conversation with the person over and over. Then think about what he can say to this, and prepare in advance for rebuttals. With practice, you will be calmer in situations where you have to lie. And thinking about all the possible outcomes will help you cope with unforeseen questions.
3) control your expressions
If you want to prevent your lies from being recognized, then it is very important to control your facial expression during a conversation. The slightest sign of redness or a smile will instantly betray you. As simple as it sounds, portraying a calm face is actually quite difficult. Again, you can overcome this with practice. Before talking to a person, stand in front of a mirror for a while and look into your eyes. Avoid twitching your facial muscles and try to be serious. Practice this over and over until you feel fairly comfortable.
4) Control your body language (facial expressions, gestures, postures)
Saying a word of deception is only half the battle. The other half is to be calm and confident while doing it. Here are some tips to keep your facial expressions, gestures, and postures natural. These are general signs of confidence that you must portray if you want to better understand how to learn to deceive and avoid nervousness when lying.
- Be relaxed;
- Avoid unnecessary body movements;
- Don’t be fussy;
- Stand up straight and relax your shoulders;
- Keep your head straight and do not lower your chin;
- Avoid touching your face, hair, or other parts of your body.
5) eye contact
Looking a person in the eye is another effective method for learning to deceive. Looking away during a conversation is bad manners, even during normal conversation with a person. Close eye contact is seen as a sign of confidence. And when someone is lying, we can tell by the person’s eyes. Don’t look away even after you’ve said what you wanted to say. Wait for a reaction from the interlocutor, or for an answer, and only after that switch your attention to something else.
6) be direct and speak loud
In order to learn to cheat, you must first train a loud and confident voice. Also, make sure you use the right words when you lie. Back it up with a loud and firm voice so you radiate confidence. Unwanted stutters and pauses only make it easier to spot a lie, and nervousness can make you confuse words. So practicing a loud and commanding voice will help you say whatever you want without fuss.
7) don’t go into details
The easiest way to “avoid falling into the trap” while lying is not to talk about the smallest details. You will only make yourself worse if you talk about all the details of the situation that has arisen. Try to be as specific as possible and shorten sentences. Always remember that the longer your lie lasts, the more difficult it will be for you to hide it.
8) don’t make excuses
People who don’t lie never feel the need to make excuses to prove their point. Although some confuse this with arrogance. This is how you must behave if you want to learn to deceive. For example, suppose you want to trick someone you know and are looking for a reason why you cannot attend a meeting. You say that you are not feeling well or you have a high fever. After you say, “Sorry, I can’t go with you because I feel bad,” don’t go on talking about the fact that you didn’t sleep all night, or you had to take some medication. Try to keep your phrases short and realistic.
9) Be confident
Without self-confidence, you cannot learn to cheat and lie. Your firmness and calmness will go a long way and will boost your self-esteem. Keep telling yourself that everything will go well and the person will not understand that you are lying. A genuine sense of confidence will gradually take over your mind. In essence, you will feel that what you say is truly true.
10) don’t get annoyed if someone doesn’t believe you
Accept the fact that there will be people you cannot fully convince. Don’t let yourself get annoyed or angry if someone says they don’t believe you. Instead, stay calm and say to yourself, “I’m not interested in your opinion.” Your careless reaction when someone accuses you of lying will go a long way and make people think differently.
11) Prepare an “alibi” if things don’t go according to plan
Lying in sensitive situations may need an alibi. For example, a husband forgot to wish his wife a happy birthday in the morning. In this case, he will need much more than just a pathetic excuse for her to forgive him. Perhaps the man will be able to convince her that he is going to have a party in the evening and is still cooking. This lie may be more believable if he can get one of his work colleagues to support and help him. You need to be more careful with such delicate situations. But if you have good intentions, then everything can be fixed.
12) don’t say something incredible
The most obvious thing to consider before learning to deceive is to make sure that your lie is indeed believable. Don’t say something incredible or stupid. For example, you want to explain why you forgot to call your boyfriend or girlfriend. It will sound absurd if you say that you were robbed and your phone was stolen. Instead, you can say that you forgot your phone at home and therefore did not call.