In certain situations, socializing with friends makes us laugh and lifts our spirits. Unlike other conversations, which force us to pretend that we like communication with a person, while we just want to leave. Today we will talk about the important points that we need to pay attention to if we want to make a conversation with a person interesting and productive.
1. Be polite
The preliminary stage of any conversation requires courtesy. Therefore, first of all, show respect for the person’s time. If you want to talk to him about something, then ask in advance: “Is this the right time for you to talk?” Don’t take it for granted that your conversation should be the most important thing on your friend’s agenda. If he told you in advance that he will be busy, then be kind and agree on a more suitable time for him.
This behavior will show your friend that you value the time you spend together. And that you are interested in making the most of that time. As a result, you and your friend will benefit and enjoy the conversation. Unlike the situation when he needs to rush, and he will not be able to give you enough attention.
On the other hand, if a friend is the first to make contact. Then listen to the reason he called or wrote. And then you can continue the conversation with him, or ask him to call back later if you are very busy right now.
2. Show interest
You don’t have to be a selfish person who takes every opportunity to tell something about yourself. Show interest in your friend’s speaking needs and offer appropriate forms of support. Ask additional questions to keep the conversation going and help it express itself better. Perhaps you want to support him, but do not know how. In this case, your interest will simply show that you are ready to support him and want to help in some way. Therefore, take an interest in both the joys and the problems of your friend. And resist the temptation to become just a listener.
3. Don’t be too persistent
Everyone has the right to decide what he wants to say and what he doesn’t want. And this has nothing to do with distrust. Sometimes we are talking about post-traumatic stress disorder. Your friend does not have to talk about all the situations that cause him pain and which he does not want to remember. He can only do it himself when it is convenient for him. Because where negative circumstances such as divorce and other unpleasant situations exist, acceptance and understanding is required from the friend. Plus, real friends have an easy way to hear what’s not said and respond appropriately – that’s understanding.
4. Be patient
If you have a habit of completing other people’s sentences, then they may assume that you consider them incompetent. The same goes for your friends. They have the right to express their own opinions at their usual pace. Therefore, be patient, and learn to listen and not interrupt, even if the person has not finished expressing his thought, and still thinks what he needs to say. If he wants, then he can ask you to supplement him.
So if you like to revise your friend’s sentences, then kick it out. Otherwise, he will think that you want to look smarter than him. A temporary fix makes sense when it is obvious that your friend wanted to use a different word or inadvertently gave the wrong information. Otherwise, it will be perceived as not respect.
5. Be careful
Effective communication with friends is about mindfulness. Therefore, from the very beginning of your conversation until it ends, you must listen carefully to the interlocutor. Unfortunately, many people do not behave respectfully when communicating. They look the other way, go into their own topic, interrupt, and so on. Do not do this. Even if you communicate with your best friend, and think that he will not be offended by you. You need to show attention in any situation, especially when talking with a loved one. If you behave this way, your friendship will become even stronger as a result.
6. Don’t hide your emotions
Be yourself with your friends. At work or with significant people, you can restrain yourself, or hide your own emotions. But with friends, you need to be frank and sincere. If you want to laugh – laugh, if you want to cry – cry. After all, who else, if not a close friend, will understand and support you better than anyone else?
7. Discuss important things in person
I don’t know, fortunately or unfortunately, but nowadays communication is increasingly moving to social networks and instant messengers. As a result, we communicate many important things to each other by correspondence, and we rarely see each other. But with the help of text messages, you cannot convey those feelings and emotions that can be conveyed in a live meeting. When we meet live, we can express ourselves more clearly through our body language. Therefore, leave social networks more often and meet in person with people. And if you want your communication with friends to be interesting and productive, then meet with them in person as often as possible.
8. Don’t criticize in public
As we said earlier, communication with friends is built on respect. Therefore, even if you disagree with his / her opinion, you should not immediately resort to criticism or condemn the person. Especially if you are with friends. Talk to him about this later. But remember to show respect and understanding. In addition, it will be much better if you communicate with a friend on topics in which your opinions are similar and will not cause conflict situations. Do not focus on your friend’s shortcomings. It will be much better if you talk about his or her strengths.
9. Don’t use too smart words
Your communication with friends will be much more interesting if you communicate with them in their language. Therefore, try to use professional words and too clever phrases as little as possible. Be yourself and behave normally. You don’t need to sound pretentious. Especially when communicating with loved ones.
10. Talk about positive things
In our world, every day there are many different situations that cause us negativity and worsen our mood. Therefore, when communicating with friends, try not to discuss negative news, not gossip or talk about what you are not sure about. Try to be a positive person. Smile more, laugh more, and bring more positive moments into your conversation. As a result, your communication will be interesting and exciting.