Many women believe that if they broke up with their partner, then there is little chance of reunion. But this is not at all the case. I was in such a situation, so I know well how to return my beloved man, and build harmonious relations with him in the future.
For any woman, parting with a loved one negatively affects her mental state and life in general. It’s really painful to part. But the main thing in this situation is not to lose heart, because as we said earlier, there is always hope for recovery. Although there is no easy way to get a person back. In any case, you will have to make a lot of efforts to be together again. But, if you still love, and have feelings for him, then it is worth trying.
Tips on how to return your beloved man
1. Return to your normal lifestyle
If you want to rebuild a relationship, then first of all you need to curb your emotions so that you can think soberly. Stop worrying or blaming yourself. Sooner or later, it happens to everyone. It is now important to get back to normal life. You need to change your emotional state. After all, many women after parting are very worried, and are depressed.
So “open your eyes” to see that there are many joyful things around. And there is no point in looking at the world in a negative way, just because your partner is not around right now. Go back to your old life. Start doing things that give you pleasure and self-esteem. Meet friends, have fun and relax. Watch yourself. Don’t start eating junk food. Eating healthy and staying in good physical shape is a natural way to lift your spirits, and a good mood is one of the best ways to bring your loved one back.
Surround yourself with people who will support you. These can be family members, friends, colleagues, or acquaintances. It is now important to maintain a positive attitude and outlook on romance. Don’t think of them as bad just because you had a conflict with your partner and broke up.
2. Do not humiliate yourself and do not ask
If you look in need, begging and begging to come back, you will only push him further. This behavior will reassure the guy that he made the right decision, and he will begin to completely ignore you. I myself made such mistakes, and from bitter experience I can say that it does not work. So even if you miss your guy a lot, don’t change anything by asking, so don’t call him and ask him to come back. The same goes for love letters or any gifts. Don’t try to bribe him.
3. Try to forget about him for a while
The next advice on how to return your beloved man is to forget about him for a while. I think you’ve already heard of the no-contact rule. It may seem strange at first, because communication with your boyfriend is one of the most important factors in rebuilding a relationship. But as we said earlier, calling or writing immediately after parting will only annoy him, and will not give anything.
You do not need to get in touch until you calm down and bring your emotional state back to normal. This usually takes about four weeks, but a lot depends on the specific situation. But be sure to wait a while before contacting him. Even if you cannot live without him, and you are extremely pleased to hear his voice, just try to keep yourself occupied and distract yourself, at least for a while. Give him time to think. And, perhaps, he will realize that he made a mistake, ponder his decision, and it will happen that he himself will take the first step towards recovery.
4. Analyze what went wrong
Think about what went wrong in your partnership and what led to the breakup? Think of your ex as a good person. Such an attitude towards him will greatly facilitate his return. Because a breakup cannot be blamed on just one partner. Try to put yourself in his shoes. Look at your relationship through his eyes. Perhaps you will find something that you have not seen until now. Think back to the time when you first fell in love. Are you still the woman he fell in love with, or have you somehow changed?
There are many possible reasons why he might have left. Perhaps there were some wrong actions or words on his part. But once you understand the true reason for the breakup, you will be much closer to bringing your loved one back.
5. Become the object of his dreams
Think about how you can improve yourself or your appearance in order to return your beloved man? How about starting a gym and getting in shape? Get a new hairstyle, lighten your teeth, or buy new clothes? If you look your best on the outside, your inner condition will also begin to improve. As a result, you will become a more positive and interesting woman.
Just don’t overdo it with the changes. Do not undergo cosmetic surgeries, tattoos, or other extreme changes. It will only make you feel better, but inside you will remain the same person. You should be comfortable with the new look. You need to understand that this is not about changing your personality, but about improving those areas of your personality that can attract your partner again.
6. Reestablish communication
You need to better understand which method will be more effective in restoring the connection with your loved one. You will need to use whatever you know about him to find the best communication method for establishing communication. Perhaps he prefers to communicate by correspondence or by phone. Maybe it would be better for him to meet at your home and talk about everything. Or to have a conversation in some quiet place, in a park or by the sea. If you’re unsure of the best communication method right now, you definitely can’t go wrong with sending a simple text like a greeting card – just to show that you are still thinking about it.
What to do if you meet live
If the man prefers to talk face-to-face, this can be a little difficult for you because the first conversation after breaking up is not that easy. Here are some tips that might help:
- Ask what he has been doing all this time;
- Do not be jealous and do not criticize whatever he says;
- Don’t start giving advice;
- Respect his words and decisions. Don’t try to convince him that he has made a mistake;
- No pathetic requests. You will seem unattractive;
- You can talk about anything. Trouble-free topics are current events, or some funny things that happened to you earlier. It can also be movies and TV shows;
- Look him in the eye. Show that you still have strong feelings for him;
- Don’t show how much you yearned. Let him see that you are living a fulfilling life and that you are doing well;
- Be positive and do your best to be interesting when you talk to him;
- Don’t act arrogant, aloof, or indifferent;
- Show that you are happy to accept him back, and your relationship will be completely different.
7. Create an entirely new union
It can be tough, but you need to acknowledge that your past relationship is over and now you need to start all over again. Start building a new relationship with this person. First of all, think about what you expect from them, and what should you work on first? You may have a lot of work to do, but you should see this as a chance to create a more successful relationship than you did last time. Before taking action, it is very important that you forgive yourself and your partner for the things that caused you to break up. Remind yourself of the times when you felt good together. This will help to forgive him.
Basic thoughts on how to return a beloved man
After a while, the efforts you put in will yield results. He will begin to show signs that he is interested in being together again, and you will see each other more often. Your main task is to establish a new relationship and bring him back for good. When speaking to him, be straightforward, but do not press. When you start discussing the fact that both want to be together, try not to look desperate.
It’s also important to show that you are willing to change so that your relationship is better. This does not mean that you will have to completely change your personality, but that you need to be prepared for changes in behavior. During your meeting, you can touch him, but do it delicately and affectionately. You can hug him when you say goodbye. Just avoid intimacy with your ex until the relationship is fully restored. It is better to use your mutual attraction to return your beloved man forever.
You can return any person if you have a strong desire, the right plan, and you really need it.
How to understand that a man wants to be together again?
It may be difficult for you to know if he is really interested in being together again. The following tips will help you determine this.
- One of the signs that your ex wants to be together is if he talks about what is happening in his daily life;
- Another sign is that he will send you texts or emails just to remind you of himself. This is when he tries his best to keep in touch with you, whether directly or through mutual friends;
- A pretty clear indication of what the man thinks about coming back – when he seriously wants to talk about reasons that could improve your relationship;
- And probably the strongest sign is when he looks at you the same way he did when you first met and fell in love.
The main reasons why men leave women
In my daily work as a relationship consultant, I have learned from many men that there are major reasons why they abandon their women. Here are a few of them:
1. Not enough freedom
One of the main reasons is that he lacks freedom. Many women try to spend as much time as possible with their loved one. But in order for the relationship to develop successfully, you need to give the man a little freedom. This does not mean that you should allow your partner to flirt with women. This means that you should give him time to relax with friends, to pursue his hobbies and interests. And at this time you can have a great rest with your friends.
2. You no longer attract him
Another main reason is that you become less attractive to him. The man begins to look after you less and less, to show love and attention. This is due to the fact that over time women become lazy and stop taking care of themselves. The guy needs to see and feel that you are trying to be attractive to him. Many girls do not take this into account, especially after many years of mutual relationship with a guy. But in any case, the appearance of a woman for any man is of great importance.
3. Doesn’t feel significant
Another common reason is that the guy doesn’t feel needed. This is surprising to many, but it is very important for men to feel significant in a relationship. As soon as he gets the impression that the woman no longer needs his help, it significantly reduces self-confidence and self-esteem. This feeling of redundancy can quickly become unbearable for him. If you find that this is one of the reasons for your breakup, then be sure to start fixing it.