Not sure what to do if you are paranoid in a relationship? I had the same problem earlier. Therefore, I know well what it feels like when various doubts, jealousy and insecurity lead to the fact that you begin to doubt your partner. You start to be suspicious of many things, not sure about your feelings, and whether your partner really loves you. You begin to interpret his actions as signs that he wants to leave you. Get offended and angry when he doesn’t reply to messages for several minutes.
And, although all these suspicions may not be justified, they really complicate life and negatively affect relationships. As a result, it leads to quarrels, conflicts and parting. Therefore, first of all, you need to calm down and stop worrying. Because you can find a way out of any situation.
1. Identify what makes you feel
Don’t look at what your partner is doing, sort out yourself first. Determine what causes these paranoid thoughts and feelings. In my situation, it was a former partner who treated me badly in the past. As a result, I began to feel unworthy of having a good relationship, and I was constantly worried that my new relationship might be just as bad. But bad experiences should be put in the past and forgotten. Because with a new person, you have to start all over again.
Therefore, give up feelings of resentment and bitterness. They should not dictate terms to you in the future and in the present. Letting go of the past, in most cases it helps to get rid of this mental disorder. Start a new life from scratch, you have everything you need for this. The rest is entirely up to you.
2. Take care of yourself
Whatever you do, do not sit at home and do not wait for your loved one to come home from work, call you or send a message. If you are currently paranoid in a relationship, and do nothing to change, then the situation will certainly get more complicated. Therefore, you need to start doing something. Take care of your physical health first. Begin to devote more time to physical activity, running and various exercises. Go outside more often, walk more and relax. Surround yourself with loved ones, spend more time with them. Don’t get too attached to your partner. You need to learn to give freedom in relationships, and spend a little time apart from each other.
To stop being paranoid, be sure to work on yourself. At the root of paranoia is low self-esteem. And when we have low self-esteem, we convince ourselves that we don’t deserve a good relationship and a loving partner. As a result, we have a feeling of insecurity in the relationship and distrust of our partner. Therefore, you need to create your own sense of value, dignity and self-confidence. This is the only way you can end this paranoid relationship. After all, it is truly a wonderful feeling to love, and to be in a relationship in which you firmly understand your own importance.
3. Get rid of negative thoughts and feelings.
You can stop being paranoid in your relationship by letting go of negative thoughts in your head. You need to replace thoughts of jealousy, infidelity, and mistrust with more positive ones. This can be done using self-hypnosis. Start repeating to yourself every day that you love and believe your partner until you feel calmer and can’t let go of those unhealthy emotions. Stop thinking about being paranoid in your relationship. You need to become a loving person, and this can only be done with a positive outlook on the world, on yourself and on your relationship.
4. Live in the present
Stop worrying about the future and the past. Otherwise, it will destroy the present moments and prevent you from living a fulfilling life. You need to enjoy each new day and be grateful for what you have now. Because you never know what will happen tomorrow, no matter what precautions you take.
5. Communication is key
Talk to your partner about how you are feeling, why you are worried, and how you can fix it. Now I mean calm conversations, not disputes and conflicts. Because if you are paranoid in a relationship, then your emotions can take over. You start raising your voice for no reason, and you say completely unnecessary things. An easy solution to this is to write in advance what you want to discuss with your partner. Also listen carefully to what she or he will answer. Don’t interrupt, and take into account all your feelings and desires. Because disrespectful attitude towards your partner will harm not only him, but also you. Ideally, you need to always have honest and frank conversations between you. In this case, you will understand that you have no reason to be paranoid.
In some cases, this alone may not be enough to get rid of paranoia. So also remember that trust issues and feelings of insecurity in relationships are all part of the emotional baggage you have carried with you for a long time. And it is working with your past that will be critical and will help you establish a healthy and happy relationship. The feeling of insecurity is a person’s personal emotion. You need to acknowledge that the problem is with you, not the relationship. Realizing this is one of the important steps in overcoming problems of trust and getting rid of paranoia.
6. Get help
Unfortunately, we are not able to solve all problems on our own. In some cases, we may need the help of close friends, relatives or specialized professionals. Feel free to share your problem with other people. It may well be that one of your friends was in a similar situation, and can give effective advice. If not, then seek professional help. Trained psychotherapists will carefully examine the roots of your problems, behaviors, and help eliminate trust issues in relationships. Working with a mental health expert can be really helpful in overcoming these disorders.