The human body and his psyche are inextricably linked. Experiences, a person’s reactions to various acute situations occurring in his life, unexpressed feelings – all this affects physical health and causes bodily symptoms that can develop into serious psychosomatic diseases.
It is worth thinking about the psychological cause of the disease if:
• your illness recurs and becomes chronic;
• pain appears in a stressful situation or from prolonged stress;
• an unpleasant symptom interferes with enjoying life and moving towards the goal;
• you do not enjoy your body and appearance;
• you just feel bad and this state draws out vital energy.
Our body is very wise, psychologists rightfully call it the best friend. In the language of psychosomatic symptoms, the body communicates with us, signaling that something is wrong psychologically. Finding the cause that caused the disease is halfway to healing. Sometimes this requires more than one meeting with a psychologist, and sometimes a person is able to independently determine the roots of his bodily ailment.
Painful symptoms are often associated with the following factors.
1) Suppressed emotions.
Repressed emotions are emotions that have not been allowed to be lived. At first, parents do not allow with their rules of decency and attitudes towards life, then you do not allow yourself. Classic things: “don’t cry, you’re a boy”, “don’t shout at your mother” and even “don’t be afraid, I’m with you”. The child learns that one should not grieve, that one should not be angry and one should not be afraid. Parents sometimes suppress children’s joy, not only forbidding to squeal with delight, because “you are in public,” “you’re a girl,” but also devaluing the child’s affairs. A satisfied kid brings another kalya-malya from kindergarten, his mother looks and asks “So what is this? Nature? Clear. It doesn’t look like something. ” The child unconsciously concludes: “I was happy, but my mother didn’t appreciate it, I probably did something wrong, probably it’s not right.” Sometimes parents are so cold that they do not pay attention to the child at all, as if they do not care whether he has feelings or not. Then the child involuntarily learns that emotions do not matter. Often sick or physically weakened children are not uncommon in families where it is impossible to be a living, feeling person. Systematic suppression of emotions invariably leads to illness. The energy of the unlived emotion remains in the body, fetters it with pains or begins to destroy it from the inside.
2) Benefit of the symptom.
Sometimes it is beneficial for a child and an adult to be ill. The classic benefit is getting attention. Children get sick, and then the parents finally quit their business and start running around with him: kissing and hugging him, asking about his health, reading fairy tales, pampering him with goodies. Unconsciously, the child quickly understands how to get warmth and care, and decides to do this trick again and again. It’s the same with adults, only sadder. If a person in his entire life has not learned to receive attention in another way, sometimes nothing but illness is left to him. He falls ill, and then his relatives and friends begin to actively call, more often children come to visit. Psychologists say in this case that the disease “loves” a person. It is profitable and quite realistic, contrary to popular stories, a headache can get a headache before the night with a hateful lover. And what about the bouts of “bear disease” before an important meeting? You can always refer to pain when you really don’t want to do something.
3) Compensate for stress.
The disease in this case develops in the same way as a callus appears from a long walk. When an organ is under the influence of an unpleasant factor for a long time, it adapts to this factor through illness. This is how loud wives have their husbands deaf or people who cannot stand what they see go blind. There is a well-known phenomenon (the law of meanness) when well-performing children suddenly fall ill during the holidays, but by the time they return to school they miraculously recover. Excellent students are exposed to great stress during their studies, which is exacerbated by the unconscious prohibition on absenteeism for any, even a valid reason. But the body must rest, to recuperate, the vacation time and the state of illness are involuntarily chosen, when you can just lie down, “throw off” stress.
4) Reflection of thoughts, a metaphor for illness.
Thoughts are material, and the body reflects our thoughts very clearly. It uses the metaphorical language of disease to show us our problem areas. Do you think you are scary? Get acne, neurodermatitis, or eczema. If you prefer to save up emotional nasty things and do not want to part with the old and unnecessary, you will get constipation. Are you sick of people or yourself? Don’t be surprised if your body starts to suffer from nausea.
5) The load on the organs.
Here, too, the body uses metaphors to convey to us that we have strained ourselves too much. You take it to heart – the heart is not iron, it can not stand it. When you take on a lot and drag everything on yourself, your back, legs, joints give up, problems with the spine appear. When you are constantly in a situation where you are not even allowed to breathe, asthma can develop, which, for example, often happens in overprotected children.
6) “Unnecessary” organs.
For the maintenance and development of life, it is necessary for all organs to function. If the organ is not used for its intended purpose for a long time, it can draw attention to itself with pain. The fact is that the delay in the birth of children by women often turns into gynecological problems for them.
7) A way to point out a person to his true goal.
Imagine, parents are terribly in conflict and it seems that there is no way to maintain the relationship, when suddenly the child becomes seriously ill! And then all the energy is spent on restoring his health, the parents involuntarily rally while fighting for the health of the child, and remember a very important goal for which they were married – to overcome difficulties together, support each other, and continue their family line. Desperate hard workers, people who have been doing hard work all their lives and “did not allow themselves to get sick” suddenly find themselves in the department for stroke patients. And if the stroke did not stop a person, forever paralyzing the organs and systems of the body, then he has time to lie down and think where he ran all this time, whether he forgot about life while earning money, whether he deviated from his true destiny. And if he is paralyzed, wants or does not want, now he will live differently, as a person with disabilities, and not as the Lord God, able to resignedly overcome everything.
When a person commits an act that is unseemly from his point of view, then unconsciously he may want to subject himself to punishment in the form of illness and thus “atone” for the guilt. It can be alcoholism, cancer, fractures, suicides. Illness becomes a curse, but psychologically it plays an important role – it protects against deep guilt, more destructive to life than even death itself.
9) Serious intrapersonal conflict.
I can’t come to an agreement with myself and I suffer. Any illness can be the result of an internal disorder.
All these, of course, are absolutely unconscious mechanisms for triggering the disease. They are based on the obvious process of self-regulation, which is characteristic of any living organism.
If you are sick and suspect a psychological cause of the disease, be wise, think about yourself a little more than usual. And remember: chronic diseases do not heal by themselves, but a person as a self-regulating system is always capable of self-healing. If suppressed emotions are expressed, and destructive thoughts are put in order, as soon as a person decides to be in harmony with himself, the diseases will go away.