Recently, many guys have written to me that the girl stopped loving them and wants to leave, although at first everything was fine. But when a relationship is just starting, magical things happen to partners. Guys become very attentive, sociable, open, romantic, that is, they do everything to make their soul mate happy. The same goes for women.
But over time, everything changes. The original flame of love that united two people is lost somewhere, and the true essence of who you are remains. Men begin to feel “safe”, which leads to neglect of a wife or girlfriend. Sometimes they just don’t know how to show love for the opposite sex. As a result, a girl who doesn’t feel cared for, feels unloved, and loses interest in her boyfriend.
Below are some of the main reasons why a girl may no longer like you. They are designed to help you identify when you failed and what exactly did you go wrong. I do not guarantee that one or several of these problems were in your relationship. However, knowing these reasons will prepare you much better for your next romantic relationship.
1. Inattention and lack of romance
The most likely reason a girl fell out of love may be because her relationship needs were not being met. Perhaps you didn’t give her the romance she needed. Perhaps they did not show much interest in what she was interested in, or ignored her requests. Many ladies want to be loved the way they need to. This is why it is so important to love the essence of a person, not his appearance. Love a woman for who she is. Be prepared to understand what she needs and that her needs may change.
A woman needs a man who can make her fall in love with him every day. She is interested in honest and open conversations. Regular and open communication is key in a relationship because this way you get to know your partner best, what she likes, what she wants, what she doesn’t want, and so on.
Don’t worry about how much she talks, just listen carefully to understand. The girl needs to be told regularly that she is very beautiful, attractive and sexy. You must let her know that there is no one more beautiful or more important to you than she. Its value must be regularly recognized. Be grateful for the special things she does for you. Don’t make her feel like it’s her obligation.
Simple ways to be more considerate and romantic
- Buy chocolate, candy, or flowers;
- Remember your special occasions and holidays together;
- Call her regularly or write;
- Make unexpected surprises or gifts;
- Say that she is the most beautiful;
- Prepare dinner for her;
- Help clean the house;
- Offer your help and support.
2. Lack of stability and support
There is nothing more attractive to women than a man who can be a real leader. Women need to feel safe. So if, as a partner, you cannot protect the lady, or make her feel comfortable with you, then she can leave.
Making a woman feel safe means you need to support and help her in areas other than romance and lovemaking. She needs to know that if she needs help, you will be the first to help. There should be no doubt that you are ready to fight for her if necessary. You must be her superhero.
And if you’re used to doing whatever you want without giving away your whereabouts, then she may feel insecure about your relationship with you. Also, don’t be too impulsive. This applies not only to your lifestyle, but also to your money. If you spend money out of control, she will feel insecure about your inability to control spending.
A woman needs to feel that you are ready to give her help and support so that she can become better. Make sure you are making a meaningful contribution to pushing her towards her dreams. But helping her become better at what she does doesn’t mean you can control her. She needs the freedom to make her own choices, but she also needs the confidence to support her if she fails.
Ways to ensure stability and support
- Show initiative (be a leader);
- Don’t make decisions on your own that the girl might disagree with;
- Be careful when shopping and spending;
- Support her goals and dreams;
- Create a safe environment for her.
When a girl discovers that she is doing something alone because you have no free time, it is very upsetting, and this may be the main reason why the girl stopped loving you. Because there is no worse feeling than being in a romantic relationship and feeling lonely. This applies to many women who are married or in ordinary relationships. They have a partner, but this person does not support them emotionally, or makes them feel like an important part of their life. In this case, the woman thinks that if she did not exist at all, then the man would not even miss her.
The girl may probably feel lonely because the time you spend together is no longer a priority for you. It’s not just how much time you spend together, but also the quality. When you are together, think about what you are focusing on.
A lady should feel that her male time is devoted only to her. That she doesn’t have to compete with other more important things. Quality timing is what will help a relationship stay strong and healthy. If you are fully aware that this is your problem, then start investing time in your relationship now.
Ways to spend more time with your partner
- Have regular romantic dates;
- Set aside time specifically for her (do this daily);
- Participate in activities that are important to her;
- Make it your top priority.
What to do when a girl doesn’t love anymore
First, you should not arrange scenes of jealousy and scandals. No need to humiliate yourself in front of a girl, and try to find solace with alcohol. If the girl has fallen out of love and no longer wants to be together, continue to live a full life. Do not withdraw into yourself and do not be alone. Look for activities that are fun and enjoyable. You can “go headlong into work”, or start learning something new.
Start chatting and meeting new people. You can meet online or in real life. It is not necessary to start a relationship with someone, or to sleep, just remain a socially active person. Just in no case run after your ex and do not humiliate yourself. Otherwise, you will inflict a serious blow on yourself and your psyche. Even if you still have feelings, you don’t need to do this. If she wants to return, or she becomes lonely, she herself will let you know about it. And then the choice will be yours, return to her, or “move on.”