It’s a really frustrating situation when a friend starts to ignore you. Perhaps he does not answer your calls, messages, or completely ignores in personal meetings. And you do not understand why this happened, and what you should do in this situation. First, you need to calm down. You shouldn’t be so upset and worried. There is a way out of any situation, and you can maintain friendship with this person if you adhere to certain rules.
1. Don’t jump to conclusions
Don’t rush to jump to conclusions and end your relationship. Because it is very difficult to find real friends, but you can lose it in one day. Try to continue your relationship with this person. Watch your friendship closely, and look for the following signs that will prove your friend is truly ignoring you.
- You stop dining together;
- You see how he meets with other friends, but not with you;
- He stopped sharing the details of his life;
- When you meet with him, he suddenly becomes silent and behaves strangely;
- He does not answer your calls and messages.
2. Don’t be discouraged just because friends ignore you.
Though you will naturally feel sad and lonely if your friends ignore you. You just need to understand that this is a normal human reaction – to feel left out. But you need to deal with these feelings and not allow yourself to succumb to their manipulative tactics. You need to continue living the same life. At school, university, work, or wherever you are, behave the way you did before. Be a strong person and maintain a positive attitude towards any situation.
3. Talk to a friend about your relationship
If you are sure that your friend has started to ignore you, then talk to him about it. Try to meet him in a quiet environment and have a calm conversation. Be straightforward and don’t get angry. Try to find out from him the real reason why he is avoiding you. Talk about what upset him. And ask him to be honest and truthful.
4. Apologize if you were really wrong
Having an open conversation will help you better understand why your friend is ignoring you. Perhaps he feels resentment towards you because of some of your wrong words or actions. If this is true, then don’t let your ego stand in the way of reconciling with this person. And if you want to continue your friendship with him, then apologize and say that you realized your mistakes.
5. Don’t apologize if you disagree with him
Don’t make yourself guilty or apologize if your friend offers a ridiculous excuse for ignoring you. Remain friendly and empathetic if a misunderstanding occurs. But don’t apologize if your friend tries to accuse you of something you didn’t do.
6. No need to appear desperate and cling to someone who deliberately ignores you.
You will become the subject of ridicule and unnecessary discussion if you desperately try to get the attention of a friend who wants nothing to do with you. If all your efforts to restore friendship are stalled, and if your friend is enjoying your suffering, then leave that person. Although in a relationship, sometimes you have to make sacrifices. But if your so-called friend is not interested in your true feelings, then he or she does not deserve to be with you.
7. Don’t become loners when friends ignore you.
Feeling lonely is a common reaction if your friend starts to ignore you. But you have to remember that everyone can find themselves in such a situation at some point in their life. Take a look at the lives of some of the most famous people. After reading the life stories of successful people, you will understand that many of them were subjected to the fact that people made fun of them, and friends did not want to talk to them. Because they stood out from the crowd, were smarter and more capable than others. But successful people didn’t let these situations break them down, they continued to be active, made new friends, and lived fulfilling lives.
So remember that nothing in life lasts forever. Good times give way to bad times, and vice versa. And when you are in a difficult situation, and it seems to you that there is no way out of it, then at that moment a glimmer of hope appears, which gives you strength and changes the situation. This principle applies to all areas of life, including career, relationships, and friendships. And just because some friends ignore you doesn’t mean your life is over. You will meet hundreds and thousands of new people on your wonderful life journey.
8. Focus on your work or study
You will start to think less about problems in your relationship with your friend as you spend more time on your work, school, or your hobbies and interests. It will help you realize the fact that there is no reason why you should stop focusing on the important things in your life just because a friend has started to ignore you. So focus on the activities that really matter to you. If you are working, focus on doing your job as well as possible and getting promoted. If you are studying, then focus on getting good grades and finishing the school year with honors. Focusing on the main activities in your life can help you overcome feelings of loneliness. This will help you distract yourself from meaningless peer pressure and social anxiety.
9. Open yourself up to new friends
Be an open and outgoing person. Start making new acquaintances and new friends after your friends ignore you for a long time and you cannot restore normal relations with them. Don’t shut yourself up and stay at home. Be a socially active person and you will automatically find people like you. You should also remember that making new friends does not mean that you are developing hostility towards your old ones. Continue chatting or texting your old friends if you still want to keep in touch with them. But just don’t shut yourself up.