We’ve all met this annoying type of braggart. They can spend hours talking about their superbly evolving career, their wonderful family and wonderful home, and exciting trips to different countries. By the way, their stories are not always true.
Some people, without undue modesty, put their successes on public display in order to be praised as much as possible. They do this in order to be in demand and successful individuals.
In our time, society often evaluates us on the basis of external signs of success. Many are praised for their achievements and thus live only for the recognition of other people. If they have nothing to show people in order to cause a stormy delight, they become wilted and lose their meaning of existence.
It should be noted that the constant desire to show off their successes and achievements is not at all harmless fun. The willingness to talk about how everything is wonderful and carefree in your life may mean that in fact the situation is exactly the opposite.
This indicates that in this way a person is struggling with his inner complexes, feelings and insecurity. And in order to distract from their complexes or convince themselves otherwise, people extol their lives.
When others praise a new dress, a new car or a person’s ingenuity, he begins to calm himself down and thinks that if he is bombarded with laudatory odes, then he really is what he wants to seem (or, at least, is very close to it) …
So why do people brag?
1. Bouncers lack love. They often lie, because they believe that their truth is not interesting to anyone. From childhood, parents could not respect the feelings of this person, not reckon with him. And the child grew up into an insecure braggart. His fictional stories are an excuse to join the company, because he believes that he simply does not deserve communication, being as ordinary and mediocre as his parents suggested to him.
2. Bouncers were overrated! The flip side of wrong parenting is excessive love. Adoration and literal deification of the child. Whatever he did, aroused genuine delight in his parents, and this man was used to seeing himself as the best. So that in adulthood his sparkling world does not fall apart, he continues to impose his fake perfection on people with the help of bragging.
3. Bragging is their shield. Something that protects them from criticism that these sensitive people cannot always bear. They are guided by the fact that it is better to let them envy them than to crawl into the soul and condemn.
How to recover from bragging?
1. Talk to friends and family. Analyze together in what situations and for what reason do you start your “going on stage?” Ask yourself why you are doing this and for what purpose exactly at such moments?
2. Having defined this, it will be much easier for you to understand what is hidden behind the boasting – banal uncertainty, the need for recognition? Why do you fight your shortcomings in this way and can you try to come to terms with them or get rid of them in another way? It’s hard to dig into yourself, but it will help you better understand how to get rid of your ugly habit. Moreover, it is not easy to get rid of it by throwing it aside, but also by analyzing the reason for this!
3. Finally, think about the people who are attracted to you. How do you like them? What qualities do you value in others and in yourself? The opinion of which people from the environment is important to you and why? Other than bragging, what could you do to get their attention? These questions will help you reconsider your priorities in life and readjust to more rational communication.